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Comment on The Living Dead by Roland

Roland — Sat, 20 Mar 2010 10:52:05 +0000

Take nothing but ancestors, leave nothing but records.

Comment on Evernote by A Thinking Man » Blog Archive » Well…Vlingo!

A Thinking Man » Blog Archive » Well…Vlingo! — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 10:12:40 +0000

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Comment on iPhone Phlogging by A Thinking Man » Blog Archive » Well…Vlingo!

A Thinking Man » Blog Archive » Well…Vlingo! — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 10:11:46 +0000

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Comment on Talk to the Hand by A Thinking Man » Blog Archive » Well…Vlingo!

A Thinking Man » Blog Archive » Well…Vlingo! — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 10:11:27 +0000

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Comment on Losing It and Letting Go by athinkingman

athinkingman — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 20:13:04 +0000

A Write Blog
Thanks for your comments. I think your strategy of anticipating loss and then minimizing it is a very useful one. I suppose that you take more control and can limit the amount of the fall. I’m sure it’s a useful thing to do whenever you can.

Comment on Losing It and Letting Go by A Write Blog

A Write Blog — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 20:09:29 +0000

One way I deal with loss is to preempt it. That’s if I see it coming and am in a postion to do something. And want to.

Recently I sold my business because I saw the writing on the wall and avoided the pain of leaving it too long.

Otherwise it’s just a question of accepting it and taking any sadness in my stride. And yes, what is wrong with feeling sad now and then.

It is a perfectly respectable emotion and experiencing it makes you appreciate the nice times all the more.

Comment on Losing It and Letting Go by athinkingman

athinkingman — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 15:51:03 +0000

Reluctant Blogger
I agree with what you have written very strongly. Society doesn’t like grief and wants to put unrealistic limits on it - not allowing people time to process through it, and often wanting to fix it. It is sad too when people won’t allow themselves to grieve for a fear of being self-obsessed.

I’m glad too that your approach seems to work for you. What you describe as ’see-saw’ felt a bit like the whirlpool to me. You acknowledge the finality of the loss and move towards the edge of the pool, but then emotionally get sucked back in again. That feels real and normal to me. Intellectually we can acknowledge the finality of the loss but emotionally be in a different place.

Thanks for your comments.

Comment on Losing It and Letting Go by Reluctant Blogger

Reluctant Blogger — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 14:30:15 +0000

Society is not very tolerant of grief, is it, not even the traditional death of a loved one type. People expect you to have a short spell of mourning and then to move on. So it is hardly surprising that people keep other grief to themselves or more simply don’t recognise what they are feeling as grief. I think for many of us there is a lot of guilt at not recovering more quickly, at perhaps being too self-obsessed and needing to go back over things again and again.

For me, in dealing with loss, I tend to have a bit of a see-saw approach which, when I accept it, seems to work pretty well. I alternate spells of feeling sad, letting stuff swamp me out, hiding, analysing with spells of those moving-forward type of thinking, of getting out and doing things to feel better and distract myself. I find that works for me and as time goes by the spells of feeling sad become shorter and more widely dispersed and are replaced by plateaux of feeling mellow.

But I do wish people would allow others to feel sad sometimes without feeling the need to try to fix them or rush them on to feeling better.

I suspect that, had I read this a couple of years ago, it might have helped me no end, just in terms of recognising that the way I felt was not actually a sign of me going crazy!

Comment on What should I tell them? by Zoe

Zoe — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 13:41:30 +0000

I actually used a dose of Arnica two weeks ago after our rear-end collision with a vehicle that decided to run into us at a traffic stop in the city.

I understand you regarding government funding. In Ontario it’s not funded in any way. I think in Nova Scotia it is and perhaps another province in Canada as well. Not entirely sure.

Comment on What should I tell them? by athinkingman

athinkingman — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 08:08:33 +0000

Zoe
Thanks for your comments. I respect the rights of individuals to do whatever they want (within some limits).

I hope that I would be open to new evidence, and am slightly puzzled why the homeopathy camp don’t produce the convincing evidence if they have it, or set up the studies to produce it in order to look for it. The Commons Science and Technology Committee studied the evidence base, and found none. Until the homeopathy camp can produce a scientific explanation for, and evidence of effectiveness that goes beyond the anecdotal, or beyond that which could be explained by chance, or by placebo, I think the government are wrong to fund it. In my view, apart from being an unjustified use of public money, it gives it a badge of credibility that, to date, it doesn’t deserve. If it changes, I hope I will be willing to change my mind, eat my words, and take the arnica