A Thinking Man

What’s your worst nightmare? I daren’t tell you mine. It’s too embarrassing and too scary!
Sometimes we do spend an inordinate amount of time worrying about what might happen, and while some of that is understandable and natural, for some of us there comes a point where it tips over the edge and becomes [...]

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I am sure that if you asked a group of respectable people�if they got angry, many of them would�deny that they did.� Although working class males are allowed to be angry, middle class males tend to want to avoid it, and it is certainly an emotion that society frowns on in women.
Despite this denial, anger [...]

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For various personal and professional reasons I have been thinking and reading a lot about anger this month.� I have been reminded that anger has many faces, and that it doesn’t always announce its arrival with complete honesty.� It knows a trick or two and is a master of disguise.
A lot of people don’t like [...]

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A friend of mine was attacked last week. She, a 24 year old woman, was standing in the driveway in front of her house in the afternoon chatting to a neighbour. A 55 year old disabled woman from across the square in a middle-class suburb, came towards her shouting abuse, then grabbed hold [...]

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Are you a seagull?
Albert Ellis, a cognitive therapist, cited by the American Psychological Association in 2003 as the second most influential psychologist in the twentieth century, used to argue that most people had strong tendencies to be like seagulls. As a psychotherapist he was quite unusual in his methods and often did and said [...]

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I learned today that Albert Ellis (or Big Al as I and a few friends fondly referred to him) is dead. Apparently he died on 24 July, 2007, of natural causes. He was 93. I feel both relieved about, and saddened by, his passing. To be perfectly honest, I felt that in his latter years [...]

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